Advice on Divorce?

I have been thinking about getting a divorce. My husband has not physically cheated on me that I know of but he has done some things on the phone as in taking pictures of himself and getting pictures of girls including my best friend. He cannot save money and is in so much debt. I am just emotionally tired of it. He doesn't help out around the house but he is a very good dad to out little boy. I have asked him many times to save money b/c we need to get bills paid off but he continues to do the opposite. I need advice on how to handle this situationAdvice on Divorce?
He can still be a good father to your child after a divorce.Advice on Divorce?
You answered your question while asking it, he doesnt do anything in the home, work, and yet he is sitting there disrespecting you with pictures, why is your best friend giving him pictures of herself. Why is she still your best friend if she did this.





You and him need to seperate you can tell him that its because he has no ambition and while he is a good fatherbut it entails more than just spending quality time with the child ,he needs to be a good husband as well. For he has a family and that should be his priority and not being on the phone or anything else like that. He is letting you take on all the responsibility and that is not fair too you at all.





You are doing it by yourself so in my opinion you need to file for the divorce and move on with your life. If you want you can file a seperation and see if that will get him to snap back to reality and get him to do what he needs too do. Let him know that being married is not a game and if he wants to continue doing what he is doing then he can get out and do it somewhere else
Honey, I've been a husband and father for 21 years. Part of being a MAN and a good father is taking care of your family. That means handling money like a grownup, not like a boy. Perhaps the reason you feel he's a good father is because he's ';pals'; with your son, ie: they're at the same emotional level. Being a good father doesn't mean being friends with your kids-it means being a teacher, coach, guide, disciplinarian, providing them with a safe home, putting food on the table, etc. Sorry to sound so cold, but that's the reality.


As far as trading pics with other women- are you kidding? You didn't go into details about the pics, but I can imagine there may be far less tame pics than you know about. As innocent as he probably makes this sound, it hurts you-and that should be reason enough for him to NOT do it. Better yet, he never should have done that in the first place. I'm curious as to his reasoning for this behavior.


My advise would be to write down some specific issues you feel are problems in your marriage, send your son to Grandma's for the night, and have a sit down with your husband. It's important to write a list so you don't miss any important points, especially if he argues with you. Let him know how you feel, and what needs to change in your relationship. Make it clear to him that you have a right to have certain expectations in your marriage, and if he isn't willing to make changes, that you'll ';need time to rethink your future';. I wouldn't makes threats of divorce (not yet). Now is the time to clearly express your dipleasure, and see how willing (if at all) he is to work on changes. If not, the threat of divorce is your last option, but use it cautiously.


On a final note, does he have any complaints about you that you feel are legitimate? Does he claim that he trades pics with other women because your sex life is lacking? I do not think it's a good reason, BTW. The point is, if you're giving him a list of improvements he needs to work on, he may come up with a few for you to also work on. Give him a chance to speak as well. Listen to what he says (in fact write them down), and tell him you'll consider them. The idea here is that you demonstrate a willingness to work on the marriage also, in essence, you have an opportunity to set the example. See how things go. Good luck.
From what I've found out,Not a good gound for divorce,yet.Try talking to him,again.Do some more research on the specuative cheating.Good luck!
I think it all depends if you want it to work or not. If you love him and want it to work, maybe you should consider marriage counseling to work through the problems. He may be against that, but if he wants things to work then that, to me, is the best option.





If you do not want things to work out, and you are sure that you want to move on, then you need to start looking into a divorce. Perhaps talk to a lawyer for a free consultation and see what your rights are and what your entitlements will be.





Lastly, in terms of him showing himself to other women...try talking to him about it and if that doesnt work, that's where the counseling will pay off.





I hope this helps!! Good luck!

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