Should I get divorce please advice.?

My hubby and I married 1year back. Its a love marriage. I do not know what do we know about each other before marriage.


Now I have problem. Before marriage my hubby used to say he sees aunts and other girls. But after seeing me he stopped seeing others. Before marriage he worked in foreign. Now he says that he wasted his life time in foreign by not dating with girls. He says he was true to me when he was in foreign. But now I found his friends list and found so many girls names in it. He just simply chat with them when I am not in home.





The other day he was talking to some one over phone in very low voice(usually his voice is not low) saying that he ll talk tomorrow morning(i.e after I start to work from home). Even though he talked in very low voice, I heard it. When I asked to whom was he talking. He said there is nothing to say me.





He is not at all kind to me. He is ready to divorce me.





He curse me by his words. I can not tolerate. I cry all day all time.





I want a peaceful life. How can I change my hubby behaviour. what has happened to him. what should I do to have a pleasant life.





Please advice.





Your advice will save my life.Should I get divorce please advice.?
Today fidelity has remained just a word devoid of its meaning and sanctity. Most of the men are prone to lewdly ogle at any woman. For them to refrain from eyeing woman is akin to keep fish away from water. But your husband seems to be having clandestine relationship with some siren so only he is talking or chating with someone on the sly. It is rightly said that a man loves a woman for sex while woman gives sex for love. Divorce is no solution to your problem. To mend his amorous behaviour and wean him away from his romantic escapade, I think you first of stop nagging at him for this. Showever on him all the attention and unconditional love. Men are actually malleable also so imbued with your dollops of love, he will feel more gravitated to you and thus he will slowly shun those sirens. Just try this and hopefully it will work.Should I get divorce please advice.?
I think you also behave the same way, i mean, you also start chating with men and see his reaction. If he confronts you, convince him the same way you also feel when he chats with other women. If he is intelligent enough and a caring husband he will realise his folly and mend his way. By the way, how is he behving in bed, i mean is he fuc... you properly. Produce a baby for him fast, sometimes that will change the whole situation. Good luck.
he is obviously seeing other women, or at least talking with them in ways he knows he shouldn't. so i would give him an choice, me or them if he wants them then its time to go, he is already treating you like crap so it sounds like its time to move on. you have to remember you can not change someones behaviour only they can change and only if they really want to.
Just be cool and don't make it a trust issue until you have proofs. Talking with some one in low voice is not cheating. however, with cool mind and politely talk to youur hubby on this matter and tell him you want peaceful married life. If still he insists on divorce, then don't waste time with him.
Tell him to throw the cards on the table. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to see a marriage counselor because besides your assumption that he is cheating, he needs to stop abusing (cursing) you.





If he decides he likes girls, let him have them and move on.
May be you should sit down talk to him as a friend and ask him what he wants.





Tell him that he can get what he wants if he tells you the truth about his relationships with other women.





Then give him some space to live and breath. You may want to go away for a while to refreshen yourself and give yourself some ME time to think over it all.
best on this regard will be talk to him very clearly....see the response and then take any decison...don't be afriad to take any step but be careful also...don't simply jump on anything..give some time...but same time see the improvement also...if there is no improvement then it means he is just making you fool.give final warning %26amp; if he is not much interested in your talks then better to leave..best of luck...
In the course of attraction you make love without knowing and seeing everything.and finally when the truth comes in front of u, it is not tolerable.Just kick him out.If u have got a talent ,u can earn sufficient amount of money for ur survival. and u can marry with some other person .but before marriage judge him well.
I think you should get a divorce.If he is being really mean to you and cursing to you and stuff and talking to other girls behind your back ... he probably doesn`t love you anymore =( I`m sure you could do so much better than him and be happy and if you don`t find someone maybe you could try a dating site .... Hope I Helped =)
give him a chance or test him if he really cares for you or loves you or not if not then go ahead and dump him before he dumps you. and while doing this you must not feel low but you should be happy .
If he wants a divorce, that's enough to answer your question.
yes
I think u shuld.bcase if ur huby want it then tel him 2 give u divoc.but its always bater 2 lok 4 onther way.personaly i dont lik that word 'divoce'
Based on your description, it looks like he is visiting online websites or chat rooms to talk to random girls. Maybe he was single and all alone when he met you and after that, he might have met these other girls - either when he was abroad or later.





Usually guys who live abroad, get bored staying home - as they don't have the same culture back home and lack of friends and social life, they end up staying home and go online and find girls or friends to spend time with. Your husband might have met girls online and continuing their relationship even till now.





Some men and women do get pleasure in an online relationship where their fantasies can be fulfilled compared to real life. They fail to know the thin line between reality and fantasy. Your husband is caught up in that illusion too. He thinks by knowing these girls online, he can do much better than what he does right now. Very little he knows that when he really meet these online girls, chances are the fantasy bubble breaks so fast and all that excitement fades away.





There are whole lot of people who has broken their real life relationship for online dating. I hope your husband understand and realizes that he is walking on a loose sand.





Only remedy is, as many others suggested, take a break. At this point, no matter what you do to please him, whenever you go next to him, he is going to be unkind to you to avoid you, so that he can have more time online. If you both share the same computer, try to know his passwords for instant messengers and check the history. There are lots of ways to do this and you can find it online to do that. You might be surprised what you find. Also, check the phone bills and find out who he is calling and try to track the people. In the extreme case, since you are working, you could hire a private detective to investigate -they can help you with finding all the loose ends.
First few years would always be pricky for both of you.He will also have many problems from ur end so wud u. So try giving space to each otehr and respect each others feeling.Guys generally do have friends who are girls.. long way to go dear..why struggling from now itself..u dont have to change each other's nature it will get adjusted automatically ..and the best way to avoid this is to keep urself busy in other things which u like..roaming outside or making friends or chatting or working anything..give space and be busy is only mantra :)
There is no reference for divorce in the Vedas. Divorce is not permitted. If you are leaving your wife or husband you are breaking your promise. If your husband or wife is causing problem it is due to his/her mental disabilities to understand the right and wrong. Which indicates unhealthy mind. So, now you need to remember your promise given of not leaving him/her during ';sickness';. You need to be by him/her until he/she gets alright or try your level best to get him/her alright





If a ill person hits/abuses a doctor should the doctor leave the patient to die? it is the duty of the true doctor to cure the patient and try doing the same till the end.
Hi,


Taking a divorce will worsen ur life. U love him so much, married ur the one u love, and to start a separate life will be disaster for u.





Ur husband may be a women savvy even b4 ur relationship, in ur relationship and it is going on now even...





But u liked him somehow, got married to him. If u take a divorce u r only going to b affected by this break up, not ur hubby, he'll be asusual as before.





I dont mean u shud go this way.





Now it can b only u who can repair ur life.





See, anyone wud go for another if he is not satisfied with one having. and u can recorrect ur hubby by bing more and more intimate.


He is really ignorant that he is having such a gud wife, one who is really caring but still going for another or more only bcoz of his ignorance. he is still immatured and guys do this mostly coz of immaturity. he is not able feel u, ur luv... and that is only the reason he is still a savvy..





It is going to b a long process of repair.





Try to be cool, think, first go on with ur hubbys way, dont argue with him (it leads to much despair), try to be more caring than ever for ur sake, try to touch his heart (for his change)...





The change will be really slow, as it is a process of changing... right...





Do this first, if posible try to consult a family counsellor.





But first be patient, confident, brave and pray for ur happy life.





Visualize that he has changed and u and ur hubby are leading a happy life, rather thinking he wouldnt change.





Things will change, they wont stag for a long time and u'll be happy very soon dear...





Be happy...
first of all some people will never change. but


if your husband loves you he will stop what he is doing to you. but first you need to see if you can


change him. and here is what you need to do.


go and start packing your belongings. where he


can see you. he will ask what you are doing. tell


him you are leaving him. that you have had enough. if he loves you he will beg you to stay.


and he will change. if he don't try and stop you then he don't love you and you will know its over


this is the way you test your marriage. so go and


try it.
u should definitely get a divorce from him.dont u dare cry over him men are not worth crying for. u seem to be educated find a job but after the divorce.ask for allimony and share in property if he has any.u can also put him into jail by accusing him of beating u ,using abusive language,demanding dowry from u,etc there are many charges that u can file against him for which he will be jailed.trust me he didnt change.he was never the person u fell in love with,all that time he was acting.now after marriage he ahs shown his true color to u as he thinks thatb u wont be able to do anything about it.dont waste ur life with him kick him out of ur life. u deserve someone better than him