Need after divorce dating advice?

I have been divorced for two years now. Ex had an affair. I have started dating someone for the first time since my divorce. I needed some time to be alone. But I now realize that I do not know how to be in a new relationship anymore! I am 40 - he is 42. Things are going very well but I don't even know when it is okay to call him or email him. How often?





I sound like a 16 year old girl!! Which is kind of fun after the two years I went through. So...any advice on how to make this relationship work and not mess it up??


Need after divorce dating advice?
Glad to hear you took some time away from the dating scene to sort things out and have some alone time. Too many people rush right into a new relationship before the ink on the divorce decree has had time to dry.





If things are going very well then you are obviously doing things right.





It isn't so much a matter of when it is okay to call him or how often. What's more important is what men appreciate in women. Most men appreciate women who are independent but not too independent. Men appreciate women who are confident and secure. A man doesn't appreciate clingy types. Those kind of women appear desperate and tend to be pushy. This usually happens when the woman is worried that she is going to mess things up.





There is an old adage, ';A guy chases a girl until she catches him.'; Guys will never change in that way. They need the challenge of the chase. It is just in their makeup. That is how they get their validation. The challenge for you is to keep him interested. Playing hard to get is all part of the courtship. And most women have that wonderful 6th sense of knowing how to avoid playing too hard to get.





What is more important right now isn't frequency but quality of contact. If the 2 of you have made arrangements to get together on the weekend sometime for an outing and it is only Monday, it would not be wise to be contacting him everyday during the week. You might want to but it would be a mistake. Guys have always needed to feel that they are flying the plane even though there is a flight engineer (you) laying out the course.





Good luck. Keep yourself busy with your job, your friends and your other interests. Avoid making your special friend the center of your life (for the time being) and you will not have to worry about messing things up.





Need after divorce dating advice?
Refrain from sex, because then your emotions will play games with you.





Take it slow, and develop a true honest friendship with a solid foundation.





FRIENDS,,,,





Otherwise you will be using him as a rebound guy/ or he will be using you coz you are needy, and this is the 1st guy out of your divorce.





Becareful and take it slow, and refrain from sex
Take it day by day...kudos to you for giving yourself time 1st before you dated...second marraiges today fail more then 1st marraiges because usually ppl who get divorced look right away for something thye think they are missing wiht someone else but they are not totally healed yet from their previous marraige so it ends up failing.





It sounds like you ar ready though...take it slow...dont rush...respect yourself and your body....dont flaunt anything...men will respect a modest woman way more then a flirty flaunty woman. You wil be fine
I agree with abc's answer. Just let things happen. Don't over think things like females typically do! Be yourself. If he doesn't like it screw him!! ;)
Just relax - if you like each other then things will move along at their own pace. Have fun and enjoy yourself.
relax, don't play games....go with the flow, don't force anything.......
I think the rules are a bit more relaxed for us old folks.