Difficult Divorce... any advice would help.?

I have been separated since February. My x is being so difficult. He fights with me over every single little thing. Then he'll send me a text saying, ';can we go to lunch, I miss you'; then if I don't respond he'll start cussing me out and calling me every bad name in the book. Hence the divorce, verbal and physical abuse. I would just like it to all go away. I'm happy now, at peace. His constant confrontational ways is wearing me down and I want to scream! He is making the visitation with my son so difficult. We have an order in place until August. He brings him home late all the time, says he spending the night, changes things, then gets mad when I enforce what's in place. It's jus so so hard. Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.Difficult Divorce... any advice would help.?
Keep sticking to your guns. Don't allow him to change the rules when it's convenient for him. If you let him get away with that now, then it's only going to get worse.





Right now he's testing your limits, he's trying to see exactly where you stand and how much you'll put up with. Be strong in the beginning and it will make things much easier down the road. Don't give him any hope that you guys may get back together again and make sure he follows the rules of your agreement or else take action. He'll go away, it'll just take time. Good Luck!Difficult Divorce... any advice would help.?
he is playing 'mind games' with you, another way for him to be 'in control'...especially if he has been verbally and physically abusive to you...don't discuss anything with him, ie--brining your son home late, changing the plans etc etc, just take his butt back to court and let the judge hammer him..why should you have to continue to be manipulated by him?? You say you are seperated, are you planning on going thru with the divorce? You should, I have been there done that, and getting away from someone like that was the best thing ever..
You need to tell him not to contact you unless it is regarding your son. Tell him visitation is strickly what the court has ordered and there will be no modification (spending nights or times). Getting a backbone and not giving in to his childish tactics will give you the strength to get thru the divorce.
Document everything and save back every text, email, etc. he has sent you. Drop it off at your attorney's office. Let your ex find out the hard way that there is such a thing as outsmarting oneself.
Please permit me to take this opportunuty and answer your question. your husband is suffering because he misses you for what ever reason. I can relate to his feelings, but do nor accept his malious behaviour. This is a no no in my book. relationships are one of the most complex and difficult part of our life. I, too feel very betrayed and abused. from my relationships. If he is cussing you or calling you every name in the book tell him to stop or notify the police. ';do you understand Me ?'; if he is physically violent with you notify the police or go immediately to a hospital emergency room. weather or not you have medical insurance GO ';do you understand ? '; your happiness and peace is worth all the money in the world. There are millions of beautiful guys out there that will love you to no end, do not look for them now, but they will someday miraciously and mysteriously show up in your life., you are a very beautiful and precious woman don't let anyone ever tell you you are not, the visutation rights he has with his son is understandable, put your foot down and make rules, if you cannot find yourself a good lawyer and he/she will help you. you must listen to what I, want to tell you. enforce what is in place notify the police if necessary and go to the Emergency room if he becomes physically violent or abuses you mentally. I, care about you. you decide if you want this bum in your life. I, personally want that guy out of your life so that you are happy and free again to find someone that will love and appreciate you. Love stephanie.AKA STEVEN you can write to me for support stephaniewhybrew@yahoo.com
1. You notify your lawyer and the court that he is not following the temporary order.





2. Don't have any more conversations with him regarding the separation agreement. Let all desires be communicated through the attorneys..





3. Tell him not to call you unless it is an emergency regarding your kid. if he does not comply. File a police report and pursue a restraining order.





4. If your state is a one party state, then record the non compliance and verbal abuses. Use evidence to get restraining order.





If he doesn't want to abide by the order, they will consider making him have supervised visits.





You need to put your foot down now or it will never end!
i am so sick of divorces, my ex cheated on me then divorced me and i did not fight her at all and we had two kids.the problem is the courts get involved on how you both have to raise your kids.the more they do the more it hurts the kids when it comes to the kids the courts should stay out of it.not just one person brought the kids in to this world both parents did and not the courts.start thinking about your kids and not yourselfs your kids are suffering because mommy and daddy want this and want that but what about your kids its divorces and fighting over your kids that screw kids up people wake up.really its not about the kids its about you.just think of the pain your kids are going through and it sucks. thats why i dont beilieve in divorces when you have kids its about them think about them and work it out
Your Husband loves you very much thats true and for sure he loves you like anything...you need to findout why he is being rude and why he abuses???might be he is not happy with his financial situation or there is some problem in his mind which he wants to get rid off or he download all his frustration on u.......save your married life..nobody in this world can love your son as much as your hubby will nobody. till now feels happy after taking the divorcee....for your son sake think before taking bold step of divorcee..put ur igo aside...life is bful and for your son if u can compromise go ahead and think about it....be good to ur hubby no matter how rude he is love him pamper him i m sure he will definately change one day......thats the only advice that i can give to you