I need advice regarding divorce?

Been married for 25 months, previously have known husband for 7 yrs.He's dominant and too controlling.Ever since we've started dating we broke up many times but he would always come back CRYING to me and would make me feel guilty.He's well aware i can't see people crying as i had a rough childhood....He shows no sign of reconciliation coz he told me once that if i seek for divorce i'll be damaged goods, true??Schysophrenia runs in his family. Said he won't participate in the divorce, can i still get a divorce, please help........I need advice regarding divorce?
This is verbal abuse, crying for you to take him back and saying you are damaged goods. Is he hitting you, too? I'd get away from him and tell him to see a mental health professional. He can't dominate you if you don't let him. You might to try to find a battered woman's program and see if they have something that can help you. You don't have to be hit to be abused.





You can see a lawyer and get your questions answered. Even if the divorce takes longer, you can live independently and get strong and support yourself. Do not get involved with any other man until you get some counseling to see why you settled for this.





We women want to be wanted and to help other people. I think you fell for it in a big way. You can't help him. Let him cry.I need advice regarding divorce?
Just out of curiosity, if you knew for 7 years that he was a lunatic, why on earth did you marry him???





But never mind, of course you can still get a divorce even without his cooperation, it just might take a little longer. Consult a lawyer.
its your right to divorce him, he doesn't need to be involved and protect his assets if he chooses not to.
you have the right to do what is good for you. do not confuse your childhood with this manipulating piece of trash. file for divorce, kick him out, change your number and warn him that if he comes close to you or calls you, you will call the police. end it. you have wasted alot of your life on a lying scumbag who cries crockodile trears. you have the law on your side and i'm sure alot of friends so do it.
Hire an Attorney and yes, you can be totally divorced even if he doesn't sign. The Judge will grant it to you, don't worry about it.


And please don't allow any more abuse from this complete man less, manipulative, coward, assh--e, have some decency yourself and dignity and show him you have bigger balls than his.


You need to grow according to your experiences and move forward......don't park in the abuse zone or go backwards....a true woman never does this!
no, he is trying to manipulate you. it is abusive guy 101.





if you walk away from him, you will be the opposite of damaged goods, you will be someone who is unwilling to tolerate being disrespected.
dn't divorce yet.
A divorce is a last resort. You really need to sit down with your husband and talk this whole thing over rationally. You need to take the time and sit and discuss everything, every little thing, express your feeling, tell him how you feel, try counseling, there are ways to deal with this other then divorce, that is just the easy way out.
get a lawyer. He is playing you with the crying thing because he knows you will take him back each time. He needs to grow up and you need to get out.
Yes, you can definitely get a divorce. And I'd bet he wouldn't contest it once it was in the works. So often a guy like that is much more talk than action - once you start the legal process he very well might go along with it. And if he doesn't - you'll still be able to attain a divorce. Nobody - repeat - NOBODY can force you to stay legally married against your will. Of course, don't try and do this without an attorney. They've seen it all - trust me - and so they'll know how to deal with your husband's reluctance, as well as the history of emotional abuse - AND his mental health problems.





Good luck, and be tough. You've got that in you or you wouldn't be asking this question. Unfortunately, you have to do almost all of this on your own....so be strong.





Disregard the emotional attacks from his family, friends, and him - and KNOW that those will pass with time - I swear they will. Take comfort in people you trust 100% - and even those people may change as you go through this process. Listen to your heart. Sounds like it's saying ';go, girl.';





Trust me, I've been there.
You can get a divorce without his consent. However, are you sure you really want a divorce? That is all up to you. Maybe you are just very angry right now... Give it more thought.





Also, even if his family has Schizophrenia, that does not mean anything! Atleast to me it means nothing, so they are all crazy. Now if you would have said he is he schizophrenic, which would be a different story.





Damage goods comment was him saying ';oh my god, don鈥檛 leave me I will be the messed up one.'; People tend to express how they feel or will feel on to others, to get it off their chest.





Consider if what he ';does to you'; is really on purpose or as bad as you are believing it to be, or is it you exaggerating.





On a lighter tone, you married a man that cries? Ha-ha, that should have been a clue to not marry -- Just kidding.








You should actually consider if this man makes you feel good 80% of the time you are with him, or if he makes you feel miserable. I say 80% because it is impossible to avoid conflicts between peoples. If you do feel he is just messing your happiness up, then divorce might be the solution.
Sounds complicated. But yes, you can still get a divorce. Talk to a lawyer. Damaged goods? Please. No you will not be damaged goods. You're right, he is controlling. Manipulative too.
Yes you can still get a divorce if he isn't wanting it. It will take alittle longer and you will need to be stronger and not let his cry baby attitude suck up back and stop the divorce process.


And think about this you being damaged goods is his fault you are damaged because of him and his problems. But you are not damaged because of it.
it will take longer but yes you can





good luck








going through the same thing
well if your not comfortable with the way he acts somtimes, then you need to confront him. Tell him how you think he can be a bit controlling, and that you think you two should make decisions together, seeing how your married now. If you married the guy, then there has to be somthing there, I wouldn't get a divorce just yet, talk to him first, and let him know how serious you are about your relationship together. And if a man comes back crying, then you know he has somes serious feelings for you. give him another chance. You don't want to make a choice about a divorce, you havn't gave him time yet, just talk to him.
what state?


All the 50 states have different rules so it is important that you see what it will take you get you divorced.





Look in your phone book or on line and try to see what attorneys will offer you a free consultation to get an idea of what you have in store





but to answer your question, YES you can be divorced without his help but it will be a tad more difficult.








P.s. If you are such damaged goods, why does he keep coming back (maybe to do more damage to you?)
Of course you can get a divorce. He doesn't have to consent. First, move very far away from this guy. Don't let him know where you are, and don't be in any hurry to hook up with another guy.





Work on yourself first so you don't repeat this pattern.
You should have never married him in the first place BUT having said that, you can divorce him. He is playing you for a fool since you already know you have trouble with him crying. Damaged goods???? Then that is 90% of the population since most of us out here are divorced and I don't think you could find 1% of the people older than 21 that are still virgins anyway. Who cares? Damaged goods is an old saying when the culture said you were supposed to marry a virgin. You can't even find one hardly anymore. That is were society has fallen to. Don't worry about it. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you right. Ditch this loser quickly!!!
Sure, anyone can. It's sad, but divorce is common and very easy to obtain in this day and age we live in.