Wife wants a divorce, need advice........?

My 24 yr old wife of 2 1/2 yrs wants a divorce. she says shes sure, and she is already going to clubs and trying to meet another man. we have a 4 yr old and 2 yr old together. she has refused marriage counseling, mediation, and even counseling to help us both be civil through this. How can I appeal to her better sense and ask her to at least have a civil divorce where we can remain friends, as it will be less stressful and best for our kids? I dont know what to believe, as i have found out she has told me countless lies on various subjects since before even giving me the news. im a very level headed person who doesnt see why we cant go through this as adults. i hold no ill will towards her, even after coming home to a her and a guy in our childrens bed together. what is the best approach? im lost... if u would like, feel free to contact me at


capecodboy at gmail com. thanks guys!! also, i am working with a psychologist and priests to make sure im doing whats best 4 the kidsWife wants a divorce, need advice........?
Hey - been there, done that - it gets better every day. You are taking all the right steps to take care of yourself which in turn will make for a better life for your children. You can't control her or her immoral ways so do what is best for the kids.Wife wants a divorce, need advice........?
I kind of went through the same with my ex...I wanted to work on our marriage and he did not....found out he was cheating on me. Our divorce was pretty civil....please get an attorney....Sounds like she is set on not trying to work things out so I would just leave her alone. See if you and her can agree to somethings like childsupport, visitation and so on...good luck_
your more fit to raise your kid's yourself you caught your wife and another man in the bed together so that proofs she is not fit for those kids take her to court get a lawyer and get custody of your kids divorce her
Take her butt to the cleaners if she's cheating on you and you have PROOF you will get custody of the kids have her pay child support. I don't think she will be partying so much when a 1/4 of her paycheck goes for child support. If you wanted to be real mean give her parents a call too let them know what there daughter is doing......
She is putting herself before the kids. It's good to hear that you moved out. She just wants to go out, in be with other men. She thinks she going to find happiness on the other side of the fence, but what she don't realize is she just made it harder for herself and her children. Your best bet is to go ahead in get half custody or your visitation rights to your children. If she acting like a fool to you, don't pay her know mind. Right now just go though the courts and your lawyer when it comes to the kids. read ten stupid things men do to mess up their lives and give your wife stupid things parents do to mess up their kids, by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger I hope it works out for you. You can e-mail me.
That's a toughie no doubt about it. Are you close enough to see the children regularly? They will feel at fault for your problems. I KNOW it makes no sense but kids have the ability to blame themselves and so need extra attention and assurance that your love will never go away.


Now, as for you and her, the only person whose actions you control are you own so you can step up and be calm and secure even if she can't or won't. Appeals to her are going to be something in the category of water off a ducks back. She probably has already yelled at you for being so calm, right? Some folks will never be pleased and, in fact, are addicted to drama and upset and will go to great lengths to see that other people are involved in the upset.


Find an attorney who will help you protect the kids because, while your economic and stress are at stake, their well being as functioning people is very much on the line. Make sure your attorney recognizes the danger in which the children are place and will help. Good luck. Respond if it will help.
You are doing all you can in that situation. It can only be a civil divorce between two adults if both are mature adults. Continue to do exactly what you are doing and keep the welfare of the children in the forefront of your mind. In time, she may come around and do what is best for them and her as well.
A man has very little chance of getting custody instead of a mother. That's just the way it is. Sometimes it happens, but don't hold your breath. I don't think you can appeal to that woman; she doesn't care about right or wrong, only about what she wants to do.
Wow, sorry to hear what you are going through. Your wife isn't thinking about anyone but herself. The best thing to do is to show her you are fine without her, be happy go lucky around her like she doesn't matter, after all she is doing that to you. Go for custody of your kids, etc. show her she doesn't matter, sorry to say this is the only way to get through to some so self adsorbed as she is. She does not deserve someone like you!!