Need advice on divorce?

my husband and i dont get alone we havent for a while we just cant break the habit but i cant stay like this he treats the children as if they are something he stepped in he never helps with them he walks in and starts shouting about the mess My oldest is a difficult child and requires lots of attention so my time is taken up with him and not house work but through this hard work he has improved greatly where his school teachers and specialists all see the improvement. all my husband sees is mess not the hard work you put into your children even when things are smooth and nearly up to scratch he moans he goes mad if i want to take the kids out for a day with my friends but he goes out with his friends he doesnt he moans that i spend all his money yet he cut my card up i feel trapped the thing is i dont know how to get out of this habit we have going on and he has never hit me he threatend to but never has i am frightened that he will try to take the children from me if we go helpNeed advice on divorce?
First of all, assumedly your oldest child is in school all day, so I am confused as to how that 'takes up all of your time' leaving you no time for housework.





Do you work outside the house? If so, then your husband should be much more helpful. If not, then you should be trying harder.


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Given your additional information, your husband is wrong. He needs to stay home for a few days and walk a mile in your shoes. Then he needs to change his whole attitude. Good luck.Need advice on divorce?
Lady, the handwriting is on the wall. This relationship is doomed. He is controlling you and you don't even realize it.
Youu sound really fed up and who could blame you. Make an appointment with the Citizens Advice Bureau and chat to someone there about your rights. I don't believe from what you've written that your husband wants the children, he just wants to make life more difficult for you. You don't say if you own your own house or it's a rented one, so it's difficult to advise on this, take all your paperwork to the CAB someone there will definitely be able to help you and advise if you can get a legal aid lawyer. Good luck.
hey think of all the child support, your a women work with that you got it made and don't know it
You need to get rid of the hubby. That'll solve 1/2 your problems right there.
just ask first yourself......if you are going to have divorce .....does it make things more smoothier and reduces your loads and heartaches....how about trying to talk to him while he is in a good mood......how about f u have divorce and you have sole custody on the children....of course or maybe u will receive some support from him....but i mean can u fulfill your kids needs.....running from differents school activities..academics and extra curricular activities....life without a husband or someone to help is quite hard....





or have you ask yourself....why my hubby acted like these?have you ever think if he is having an affair.....maybe he is not attracted to you anymore (sorry .. it hurts ) bcoz you neglect yourself already?and found someone else's warming and inviting arms....or he is tired of working.....if possible try to make an effort to give your marriage a sparkle.....try your very BEST to save it or else the kids will suffer... but IT NEEDS TWO TO TANGO...
I would make a plan and leave. He is controlling you. Mine started out that way and then the abuse came. I am in the process of leaving. it is not something you can do overnight. Make sure you have somewhere to go, and the children are safe. And when and if you decide to leave get a restraining order asking for custody of the children until you go to court.
Leave him! and DONT LOOK BACK ! He needs a lesson in RESPECT !
You've got to leave, you have no idea what effect your relationship and your partners behaviour is having on your children. I had problems with my ex and though we didn't row in front of the children the atmosphere was less than happy, when we split the relief was tangible we all relaxed and the children were much happier, and they got to spend quality time with their Dad, rather than seeing him sprawled over the sofa occasionally. He will not be able to take the children away from you, your obviously a very good Mum who wants the best for her children. Chances are that your oldest child will improve significantly if you are seperate parents. Best of luck to you, remember you and your children deserve better x
if you decide to leave, he won't take the kids... if he tries to keep the kids it's only because he does not want to pay child support... he complains about money now, wait until the divorce, lol! then he will really be broke... besides, no judge in their right mind will grant him custody... he never spends time w/ them! why doesn't he go out w/ you and the kids??? basically, you need to tell him it's either you AND the kids or his ';buddies';... a good husband and father is not out w/ his buddies... a good husband and father spends time w/ his wife and kids... you both need to sit down and talk about money spending... come to an agreement... take the kids out once a month instead of every week... (I don't know if you take them out every week)... and hubby needs to take you out w/o the kids, instead of going out w/ his buddies...!!! good luck... my husband stayed home w/ the kids while I worked a year ago, so can yours! if he doesn't, he's a whimp...
Wow, You should get out of this relationship ASAP. He doesn't sound like he loves you at all, or the kids. Consult a lawyer, everything you tell him he does at home and so forth will be used against him in court. But mind, they do ask the kids the same questions they will you about him. All the best. SOrry I couldn't have been more help.