i know what she see's in a 28 year old manAdvice please i have a friend of mine she was married now getting a divorce ?
It depends. Since its his first relationship (which is odd in itself) he may be looking for a mother like figure in an older woman. Since she's recently divorced she may be looking for someone to make her feel young and free-spirited again. Or, she could be on the rebound, which is NOT healthy for either person involved.
However I have heard of relationships with huge age differences working. It all depends on the people involved, and where they are in their life.
i just don't understand what she sees in a 28year old man
I would imagine she see's a 28 year old man who respects her, makes her happy and probably loves her (something she obviously didn't have in her previous marriage). Maybe one day they will both decide that they want different things in life (because of age differences they are heading in two directions) but until than don't advise your friend of anything..leave her a lone. As to the guy himself, well if he has never had a significant relationship (and he seems nice) I'd also have to guess he is shy / has low self esteem and in many cases you will find these types of people very giving to those they love (because they are afraid they will never find someone else).
Women peak sexually mid forties so a younger man makes sense for those reasons. The reason you cant see what someone sees in someone else is because you're not looking through THEIR eyes.
Getting hurt is part of it all.
You wont know if you're going to get hurt unless you Love in the first place.
Would you ask the same question if a 48 year old guy was screwing a 28 year old chick?
I know what she would sees in him, the same thing the older guy sees in a younger girl.
The only thing you should tell her is Congratulations.
If the guy is committed then no one can fail this relationship.
A younger boy will always hang on to someone who is more experienced in everything.
Is she asking you for advice? If not, don't give her any.
My advice to you is to leave your 'friend' to sort out her own life.
I'm amazed how many people come in here %26amp; post questions about their 'friends' problems.
Amazing!
I don't believe your friend who is 48 years old really has the intention to have a serious relationship with this young man.. she may have been made to feel old and no longer desirable by her husband.. he may have not found her physically attractive anymore and never told her she looked good.. I believe now that a 28 year old guy is interested in her.. this boosts her damaged self esteem.. that she feels like a woman who for her age is still attractive enough to attract younger men.. I don't see her marrying this young man.. besides she is still married and only getting divorced.. I am sure she is frustrated and upset by the divorce.. and this affair with the young man helps her to not feel quite as bad that the marriage has come to an end.. Women and men who start a new relationship just after one long lasting relationship is over are on the rebound often.. and they only do this.. to prove to themselves.. '' I still have what it takes..' i am not old.. men get that way often when they are in their 50's .. they go and date women who could be legally their daughters.. because they want to prove to themselves '' a sexy young woman is still interested in me.. those are the men who don't feel their wives appreciate them or take them for granted.. most often or it's just male midlife crisis.. but the young sexy ladies will not stay with over 50 year old guys unless those guys have some money... maybe a 35 year old woman and a 50 year old man.. that is ok.. a 15 year age difference can work out and in some rare cases it is really love.. I guess and they are 25 years apart in age.. like Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones.. she is good looking.. she is not poor.. he makes money also.. but they are 25 years apart in age.. she admired him from when she was a teenager still.. so I guess it can happen that 25 years age difference marriages have a chance.. if there is really love on both sides.. And Demi More is married to Ashton Kutschner.. or whatever his name.. she looks young for her 46 years.. but he is about 15 years younger than her.. but it seems to work.. so far.. so it's possible.. Both of them are of age and should have a right to decide for themselves what they want to do.. and you should not give advice unless your friend asks you.. otherwise it's not appropriate.. she is mature enough to make decisions for herself.
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