I'm thinking about getting a divorce. Any advice on what I should do - lawyers, decree details?

Background - my wife and I have been married for 11 years and we have a 7 year old.





How can I minimise the acrimony?I'm thinking about getting a divorce. Any advice on what I should do - lawyers, decree details?
Talk to a counselor first to determine the degree of friendliness for your child's sake. Then talk to a lawyer. Finally, When its all said and done, start working on that after marriage friendliness right now. It will be an easier transition if and after divorce. Remember this. Marriage is worth trying to save and divorce is worth trying to end civilly and friendly for the child's sake and yours. Good luck and much wisdom.I'm thinking about getting a divorce. Any advice on what I should do - lawyers, decree details?
Yeah, I have some advice. Think again! Divorce is a terrible heart rending procedure and second marriages are just as likely to fail.





Go to http://www.enduringtruth.org/catalog.asp and get the Making Marriage Work teaching series, item #771776 and listen to it with your wife and apply the teachings to your marriage. Over time you may be looking back and thanking God that you didn't give up on your relationship.
Firstly if your still living with your wife ,does she know you feel this way ? 2nd if you are living with her and she does not know i suggest you speak to her about your feelings ,if she does the 1st step would be to move out ,if you are already seperated i suggest you get legal advice different countries have different laws as do different states in the U S ,you dont say where your from and i really feel that a little more info would help you get more advice
Why are you thinking of divorce? Be a man raise your child.


Stay married. You had better have a really good reason to break up a family. No way you get divorce advice for '; I'm thinking about divorce';. You made a lifetime commitment by


getting married and having a kid. Be a man. Live up to your obligations.
Plan plan and plan. Does your wife have any idea? Has she moved OUT?





Protect yourself. Financially----close your joint account and withdraw all monies---Change beneficiaries on all 401 k retirement policies by putting them into a trust.





Seek out an attorney that excels in family law.





Seek out joint custody of the child. if you're a better provider and parent try to get full custody.
definitly talk to a lawyer
It may not be possible.





Look, the important person in this is your 7 year old. The way you asked the question, you appear to have that in mind.





Even so, things get freaking crazy in a divorce. I have one child, who was 5 at the time of mine. I ended up raising her.





You do indeed need a lawyer, and they are expensive as hell. You didn't say what you think your spouse Will think about all this, so it is hard to give advice on that part.





At 11 years (I was married for 8) there are retirement details that will be a problem. Be prepared for that.





There are also going to be issues about any marital assets, house, car, bills. That part gets ugly.





Make sure you let that child know this breakup has nothing to do with them. Make sure you never say a negative thing about your spouse in front of them, no matter how ugly it gets.





That really is the important person in all this.





-Dio
do not think about divorce


solve your problem with your ownepartner


my advic is husband and wife is the largest thing in the


world


do not distory this relation ship


better think about it.