Does anyone have biblical advice on divorce after infidelity.?.....What about if you have kids?

I'm a Christian man with a wive who has had several affairs (more that 4). After separating for about 2 months, she says that she misses me and our child and she says that she has changed and wants to start going to church. In the process of our separation, I met a really nice young lady (who is a Christian). I stopped talking to my friend when she said that she was willing to work things out. I really need advice. I have probably lost a good friend in all of this, but I had to do what was best for the child..............HELPDoes anyone have biblical advice on divorce after infidelity.?.....What about if you have kids?
If your wife is not willing to mend her ways and work on the marriage and stay with you then by all means file for divorce. Talk to your pastor about this as well. It does say some where that Fornication and adultery is a reason that God does allow divorce for. Go to http://www.marriagetoday.org and email Jimmy and Karen Evans on this one and see what they have to say about this as well. Seek counseling and marriage counseling and help with your wife and do find a church to start attending. What kind of church are you looking to attend if i may ask? You really should try and work on your marriage if at all possible if your wife is truley willing to change and get help! My husband and i are here anytime you need to talk about things! We also have a list called lets talk marriage at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/letstalkma鈥?/a> We are here to help you in any way that we can!Does anyone have biblical advice on divorce after infidelity.?.....What about if you have kids?
Your commitment to your wife ended the first time she was unfaithful...if she has found God then it wouldn't hurt to give her a chance if you still love her, but if because she hurt you so much and you can't...then you need to find forgiveness for what she did so that you and her can be the best parents possible for your children....You should be praying for God to guide you and seeking help from a minister of your faith....you shouldn't stop talking to your friend because your wife says she changed...she has to prove to you she has and just because she was unfaithfull doesn't mean you are by having a friend. Actions speak louder than words so your wife has to show she has changed. Counseling helps too...not too many marriages survive infidelity mine didn't but my parents did. It's all in what you can handle for YOU....but as far as the bible is concerned that too is in how you interpret it. My choice was right for me and your choice has to be right for you. About your children...what is best for them is for you to be happy...don't stay in a marriage just for them because you are setting a false pretense on what commitment amoung other things...
I looked for such answers in the Bible and talked with the Pastor of a Church, when I separated due to my partners infidelity....its tough looking thru and understanding different chapters %26amp; versus when you have such a strong opinion of your own...The Bible does reference infidelity( or acts related to it) as a acceptable reason to consider a divorce, however, the Pastor and literature also mentions this was not intended to mean you should divorce and encouraged to work things out regardless of reasons when ever possible. I needed more answers before my heart could allow my marriage to continue, and after approximately two years separated not enough were received to change my mind and with great sorrow finalized the divorce...each situation must be dealt with individually and all circumstances considered, our children were grown...not to say it didn't effect them but child custody was not an issue...continue to search for more answers before you make a final decision one way or the other...good luck.
Read your bible, there you will find your answers.
It seems to me that this woman runs home when other things don't work out for her.


If she wants to start going to church what is keeping her from going on her own?


If she is changing, then you should be able to see that already in her actions, she is an adult, I would point out to her that you need to see that she is going to church on her own because its important to her rather than letting her yo yo you and your child over and over, that certainly isn't Gods will or what is best for your child.


I wish you the best.
Yikes. Rough Situation. I don't know any biblical advice to give you but I can give you a common sense/personal opinion on the subject. It's obvious that you still have some very strong feelings for the woman you have seperated from. I think that is absolutely normal. I think it's great that she feels that church is something that will make her feel better and perhaps make her a better person. I think a very important issue here is that you say that you have been separated in your message but you suggest that you are divorced in your Question. Either way in my opinion you should remain seperate from your ex-wife as you two discuss your issues and resolve your differences. Deciding to ';go to church'; shouldn't be enough to cause you to put your child back into a potentially harmful situation again. Having a seperate and very healthy relationship with the mother of your child is a very ';OK'; thing to do. You don't have to be living together to do that. Another opinion is about the fact you have a child to care for. You said that you wanted to do what is best for your child also which is very very smart. I think it is very important that you obstain from ANY relationship with another woman until your child is around 18-20 and/or you know he/she can mentally cope with the situation that you and the mother have put them in. It will also give you plenty of time to further decide on what is important to you and your child, rather than guessing and jumping head first into another relationship with another woman. Good Luck!
New International Version





Matthew 5 Read This Chapter


5:31


';It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'


5:32


But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery
Prayer reveals much. If she has cheated several times than that is all you can do. Divorce due to infedelity is ok but divorce to marry another woman isn't. Not saying that is what you are doing but just to let you know. Now as for your wife she needs help. Counseling with a pastor is best but she has to be convicted and ask for forgiveness. You have to forgive and forget in order to move on with her but that is easier said than done, God's will is stronger than any addiction she might have so if it is meant to be than it will be. As far as you and your friend, you are required to maintain faithfulness to your wife until the divorce is finall (just a thought)
If you still love your wife and want to work things out, I believe both should do whatever possible to make the marriage work. However, I am also a Christian and I do not believe in divorce unless it for infidelity. I can see myself forgiving my spouse maybe 1 time, but that's it. After reading Matthew 5:32 and others, as long as the reason for divorce/separation is infidelity, I persoally feel ok. As far as the child, yes if something happens between you, it's going to be hard for the child. Many children go through separation everyday and evetually turn out ok. It will be hard for the child at first, but eventually they learn to accept it. I don't believe that you should be wasting your life with someone you can't trust or love just because of the child. If you have to move on, explain to the child what is happening and why and let them know that everything will be ok and that both Mom and Dad still love you! Hope everything turns out ok.