Husband wants a divorce....advice?

My husband wants a divorce and does not love me anymore,and I know he means business(it is a final deal).I was hurt but not really happy in the marriage either,it has been a long time since I have felt happy in a relationship and I very much want to move on.We have been seperated for 6 months and it will take who knows how long before he will have enough money for the divorce,is it wrong to be open to dating at this point?Husband wants a divorce....advice?
It is OK, but beware of the rebound effect like some poster said already. It is probably better if you get officially divorced before dating again though...Husband wants a divorce....advice?
depending on what state u live in if u do and the spouse has pictures of u doing so ,its adultery on ur part, sometimes u can draw up papers saying that u allow the other to date and will not hold that against them in the divorce, check with a lawyer in ur state
No-but like the first answerer said, be careful they are not rebounds! Only you will know when you are ready to be dating!
I don't think u should worry anything, he wanted the divorce so go ahead and date.. i know what it is to be someone and not be happy, but it's hard sometimes to move on, dont let something like this keep u from being happy
no


not at all


divorce is just the technical legal part


you marriage is over


it does not cost that much


unless you want to bring in attorneys into the fray



Wow, yes. I think it is way too soon, personally. You still sound hurt from this relationship, take it from someone who has had many rebound relationships...they are NOT good. They only hurt you even more.





Take the time to work through the hurt your husband caused. Get over the hurt, let it go and move on BEFORE you start another relationship. Don't punish yourself, and any possible boyfriends with that type of baggage.





Get through the divorce, even seek some counceling. Make sure all things are out in the open and really make sure you've explained your feelings to your husband even if he doesn't want to hear it. That is the mistake I made, I never told him how I felt about what he did. Its important for closure.





Best of luck....
We cannot make or force other people to love or accept us. If neither of you is happy in this marriage, then call it quits and move on.


Sadly, we all make mistakes...hopefully we learn from them.





(I was separated from my ex-husband for a year before I asked for a divorce.) Take it easy with the dating issue. I would ask you to consider going to therapy before you started going out on dates...Why? Because there is a lot of anger and sadness and unresolved issues you have to deal with BEFORE you move on and meet someone else.


Good luck. Get a good lawyer and your family's support as well.
Be wary of the rebound. It is disguised as real love ... but turns out to be fake and left over emotions from previous relationships that were never finished properly. Someone ends up hurt ... and it's not usually the one with the baggage. It's the one who really thought it was more than just a rebound. Heal yourself before you go out on the town looking for someone new. It really is the only path to healthy relationships in the future and to safe guard against making the same mistakes again.
I don't think so, if you both are sure that it over. I would try to stay away from any situation that would be uncomfortable for you both. Maybe keep it low key for a while longer.
Some say wait you are married...but if it is over and you are ready go for it.





I'd suggest you talk to the soon to be ex and say ';I'm moving on...new guys and all that'; so he is warned. Plus, he might be with someone.





But be honest with whoever you meet. You are in the process of getting a divorce. So technically married. And also carry the risk of this being a 'rebound relationship'.
If you're both willing to move on and are willing to be civil about whatever assets you will share, you can file for an uncontested divorce for very little money. Make this agreement with him now - and you both will save an enormous amount of money. If you two cannot be civil, expect to lose a large portion of each of your savings to your respective lawyers. It is the best thing for both of you to do, believe me!





6 months separated? I'd say you're date-ready. Just be sure to be open about that fact to your dates if they ask - there's nothing worse than to find out a woman is separated and is lying about it. Being upfront now spares a lot of strained feelings down the road.



If you are absolutely sure there is no chance of a reconciliation, and you don't love him anymore then I do not see why you shouldn't start dating again. You deserve to be happy