see a lawyerI am married for 10 years to a man who is Narcissitic Personality. I want to Divorce, please advice...?
This is the correct way to restate your question:
I have been married to a man with a narcissistic personality for ten years. I want to divorce from him. Will you please advise me what to do?
You dont really say why you want to divorce him. Even if you did do you really think it's a good idea to be getting advice about this from here? Before you go out and file divorce papers please consider seeing a marriage consuler(sp?). Too many people now adays give up without really trying and you will regret it later. If things dont work out at after trying to work it out at least you can say you tried. Good luck :)
WHY WOULD YOU WANNA GET A DIVORCE
It is unusual for people suffering from narcissism to seek treatment for their problems, or even to consider that they might have a problem [9]. The fears that narcissistic people have of being inadequate make it very difficult for them to imagine having “something wrong” with them, and they certainly would not feel safe in acknowledging these fears to another person. They are typically very threatened by the notion of entering psychotherapy, since they fear the result would be that the therapist would be critical and rejecting towards them. Essentially, they imagine that the therapist would relate to them as their parents did. They are very likely to be disdainful and disparaging in response to the notion of psychotherapy. Unfortunately, narcissism is a relatively stable condition and tends to remain relatively unchanged over one’s lifetime. Current treatments for psychological disorders have little help to offer narcissistic people
so its up to you to leave him alone with this kind of personality disorder or help him out.
Girl put your chin up and go for it..... don't stoop to his level and show him who is boss and get the divorce... just don't do anything immature so you look like the one with the head on your shoulders.... I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you but why waste more time on something that isn't going to work...
The question i would like to ask you is ';how long did it take you to find out how he is?
if you have lived with hom for 10 years then you would have picked up some of the traits too
call a divorce lawyer %26amp; file!!...tell him to move out %26amp; take nothing!
Talk to a lawyer.
First make sure you have told him why. I think it's unfair to expect someone to change if they don't know what it is that htye are doing. I f you alreasdy have then just leave. You gave it a chance and made it known what your needs are. Leave, get a place and find yourself a good lawyer.
I would say, ';Get a lawyer.';
Okay - so get a divorce. Hire a lawyer and get the ball rolling. Sounds like you've made up your mind, and, if this guy is like that, it sounds like you've made the right decision...but you haven't exactly given a whole lot of detail here.
Get a lawyer and good luck!
There is surely something that drew you to him 10 yrs ago before you married him. Focus on his stregnths and his positive side. Who said marriage will be a bed of roses without thorns? Those thorns are usually our imperfections, our selfishness, and the imperfections and selfishness of our spouses and that of our children.
If you seek to be selfless and loving in your marriage no matter what, you will see changes in your husband (I am married I have seen it work).
Talk to him about how you feel if you have not. When you do so, tell him in a non-blaming, non complaining, non finger pointing manner. At all cost do it with love, usually when you are not angry and when he is not angry or preoccupied with something else.
Remember we all are self centered..we love attention. Give him a chance. Love is patient, kind, sacrificial, does not keep a record of wrong, not self seeking, not easily angered. You know this is the most difficult practice married people have- love. One gives love without expecting any in return. If you are selfless most people will be selfless with you including your hubby.
I commend you to have been in the marriage for 10 yrs. Most people give up in their early years. Continue on. Pray for your marriage, yourself and him. The 10 years that you have been married, there must have been something that kept you going. There is too much divorce it is sickening- dont add to the numbers if it is not ultimately necessary.
Divorce is the last resort.Try for union.
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