Parents getting divorce. Advice?

So i never thought i would be askeing this question. casue my parents both came from a divorced family and they said they would never do this to theor kids.











So like i am scared they are not sure if they are. but my dad was your mom asked for a divorcec they have been marride for 17 years!


rigth now i think this divorce is my fault because i haven't been that good for like the last week.


so can you help me?Parents getting divorce. Advice?
If your parents are getting a divorce it is not your fault and don't blame your self. They are going through things right now that you probably have no clue they are going through and regardless of that they both love you and always will the best thing for you to do is love your parents unconditionally and don't take sides and try to stay out of there problems you will just get hurt and will end up regretting it later in life like stated early by someone else get Fireproof it might really help them and youParents getting divorce. Advice?
Their problems have NOTHING to do with you. Parents ALWAYS have their own PRIVATE matters that you know nothing about. Trust me; what ever happens between your parents IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! I'm sure they would tell you the same thing. Let them work out their problems together and try to stay out of it. Be supportive of both of them as much as you can. If they are not happy together any longer it would be worse for all of you if they do stay together. Be supportive and understanding for both of them and just try not to make things any worse than they already are ok. I hate to see you go through this; but remember, if they stay together just for the children so to speak it could make their relationship even worse.





good luck hon and best wishes to you and yours.





P.S. I also agree with the other lady; the movie ';Fire Proof'; is a must see for ALL couples. See if you can get them to watch it.
1 week would not cause them to divorce, so don't blame yourself. People sometimes are just not compatable and stay together for the sake of their children. Mom and Dad will be fine and your relationship with them will be the same or get better. You will also see that they are happier and that will ultimately make you happier. Don't blame your self for something you have NO control of! Good luck.
Honestly sometimes people just fall out of love and decide to get divorced.


It isn't your fault. It never is the child's fault. There is nothing you did or didn't do that made them want to get a divorce. Believe me I know.


What you may not realize is that, this could have being going on for a long time, and you just know about it now.


Divorce can be a scary thing but sometimes it can be ok. My parents were better divorced than they were married.


Just take a breath and let your parents deal with thier issues. It isn't your fault, and your parents will tell you that too.
Yes, I understand, you misbehaved and you think that has something to do with your parents divorce! You don't know how wrong you are. You are not the reason they can't get along. They are the reason! They want to do whatever they want to do and do not care about the other. Most parents get divorced for the same reason: they want to do their own thing. Hopefully, if you can understand this, you will learn from their mistakes.
You are not at fault by no means. You have to understand that most children think it is their fault if their parents decide to divorce. It is their fault, not yours ok? I am really serious. Stop blaming yourself.


There is nothing that you can do to make them stay married. Life happens like that even when we don't want it to happen. You will be just fine. You will get to see both of your parents and life will go on. You will adjust. So put on a happy face and try to be happy. (smile)
Don't feel that is your fault, my parents got divorce to wen I was 13 and they had 18 years married,I felt guilt to, I gues is normal to feel that way Im 30 now and I konw fore shure it wasnt anyones fault wen two adults decide that they don't wat to be together or that the relationship is not working anymore they get separeted and belive me is heathyer that way for every one...
I don't think it is your fault because it's just last week right?( u think u have not been good) but is you were a bad kid since birth then it might be ur fault.. but it's just last week. Maybe this divorce thing was planned for a long time. You know parents get bored with each other sometimes.. let them know how you feel about it.. if you're important to them they will listen to u no matter what
it has nothing to do with you. you might need to speak to a therapist to get through this. im sure your parents will help you find one.
It isn't your fault





Believe me on this one





Sometimes people just can't get along anymore





They will always love you





Remember That
its not your fault, its because they dont like eachother- if they didnt like you they would have sent you away to boot camp or something so they could be together by them selves they dont like eacherother they both still love you
rent the movie fireproof and watch it together trust me it will be a big help
first of all don't blame your self.you might try suggesting they go to counseling.
i hear most children think that it is there fault. don't blame it on you