I'm cold due to my parents divorce? Advice? Similar stories?

My parents had a very messy divorce when I was like 8..and they never asked me how I felt or talked me through things and now at the age of 20 I'm really emotionally cold and shut down. I have a very hard time articulating my feelings and allowing myself to cry. Any similar stories?I'm cold due to my parents divorce? Advice? Similar stories?
I had a friend who had the same problem, they found a good psychologist and went through talk therapy. It really helped. Good luck to you.I'm cold due to my parents divorce? Advice? Similar stories?
I understand how you feel. My parents divorced when I was 5. I would suggest going to a therapist/counselor. It has been helping me a lot. They would know how to help you.
Aye, i have had things like that happen. My parents never divorced, but they came close. I always watched them fight from outside where my siblings and i enclosed ourselves in a netted trampoline. Things like that hurt, and since the brain isn't all that for self inflicted pain, it avoids it. In your case, it wants to block off emotion, because that shows weakness. weakness shows vulnerability, and vulnerability increases the chances of being hurt again. Don't trust people, but don't close yourself off entirely. If you do that, you'll only end up digging yourself deeper. holding back emotions is like pumping air into a glass bottle. eventually it will crack under the pressure and then burst, and you'll be left with the shattered pieces. Let it out somehow or another. Don't keep it inside.
You need to understand that it was not your fault and that you need to experience your own life what you may not want to do is get close to someone and cause all the pain your parents went through with any child you have. Also some people no matter what you tell them will not be interested and other people who care about you for who you are will be interested and listen.