New To Divorce And In Need some advice. i have been married 1 month and i met this guy in a strip club?

weve not even known each other 5 months and we got married with the knowledge of not even knowing each other for very long ... we both realize that it was a mistake, and now that im pregant i just dont know what to do. my husband is mentally and phisically abusive. i cant take it no more.New To Divorce And In Need some advice. i have been married 1 month and i met this guy in a strip club?
Life's short, get a divorce ;)New To Divorce And In Need some advice. i have been married 1 month and i met this guy in a strip club?
Leave him! Do not expose that unborn child to that environment. Go to your parents, friends, filed divorce and alimony and child support for the child.
Get out now. Since you are pregnant not only will he be beating you but he'll be beating your child also.... I have heard of so many stories of women getting abused and the abuser killing the unborn child. It is serious and you need to act now to keep you both safe.


There are plenty of women's abuse shelters around, find one and get to it immediately. I suggest finding one far from your home, possibly in a nearby town (but still within the state) and going there...that way it will be more difficult for him to find you (if he even bothers)


You'll need to contact Legal Aid or a lawyer, they may have options at the shelter for you as I'm sure he will not agree to a divorce. If he did, you could do everything online.... but a contested divorce requires a lawyer.


File for divorce immediately, and be sure to provide any rpoof you can about the abuse (pictures, injuries, etc) as this will only help you in the divorce and the child custody hearings (providing proof that he's an abuser will help prevent him from gaining any type of custody of the child.


Be safe....get out as fast as you can.....
Right now you really need to do what's best for you and the baby!!! A child does not deserve to be brought into this already cruel world let alone into a household where any type of abuse is taking place! Get the divorce and leave while you still can! Good Luck!
first of all you should never even date let alone marry anyone that you meet in a strip club...i mean come on, a strip club is the trashiest place and only attracts trash. maybe you should look for men in the library lol
He could seriously hurt you and kill the baby, leave him now. out of an act of rage he could go to jail for a long time ( prob. not a bad thing, him going to jail ) but no one needs to get hurt, think of your baby!!
EASY REALLY
Go back to the strip club and see if yu can meet someone better and then get too know him for 6 months and get married and knocked up and then see if it works. It should.





Why would you do that?





I hope you make better choices with your child.





Please leave him.
I'm the husband and so much i could say..but will simply say why?
divorce him, NOW!


it's not safe for you or for anyone else


best to just forget it and move on
Step one- get a divorce.


Step 2- decide if you want this baby or not


step 3- call the police and tell them you are pregnant and your boyfriend is physicially abusive....





You need to get yourself together right now, and get out of there.. you have another human being in you and you need to make the right choices.. if you do decide to keep this baby than you can sign up for government assistance.





good luck
Well, there ya go. You never can know someone too much, believe me!


Abusive? Get the hell out. It only gets worse, and worse. Before you know it, it will have your spirit broke, and thinking your too weak to leave. Get out now.


As far as the pregnancy, I hate to say it but unless you are able and ready to bring up this child alone, which by the way is so very difficult, then if it`s less than 12 weeks, consider an abortion, if not, consider adoption. Adoption is the most unselfish things a woman can do, you will hurt about it, but know that your child will have a wonderful life with a couple who couldn`t have one of their own.


Good luck.
If your husband is abusive in anyway you need to get away from him before you give birth. He will RUIN your child's life if you let him be a part of it with out legal supervision. There are safe havens for women and their children who are escaping an abusive home. you should try and find one in your area.
So get a divorce.
you need to be the one with power as you know you have it. you are a woman and the law will back you up with it. you need to tell him you are pregnant with his child, if he wants no part of what he has created, and you want to keep the child. you then go into court in the district where you reside. and file for child support, medical ins. and full custody. you may have a problem with full custody, physical custody is the next option. do not be threaten by him, you may need to get a restraining order if he physically or even verbally abuses you. you need to be upfront with all the details that he needs to know, i would call him on the phone with this matter. he may just care about his child and want to help, so let him know the situation first before going to court, but do not be a fool and wait for him to be sincere. actions of the probate court will help with these family matters. i suggest you go and talk to someone in probate, and get his *** in court to iron out all the details. in other words it is in paper at the courts and he must follow it through or he will find himself in contempt of court. remember this you have to do this asap so you do not end up getting screwed again. call him with the news, and tell him you are going to go to the probate court. tell him you want medical ins. for the child, child support, and the least but most important physical custody if not full. you were married to him, so you will get what is rightfully yours. it is ashame for the child to not have him there, but he just may be a good dad give him that chance to be that, but it must go to court, and you have to tell him we need to do this. nothing else to say, but do it.